Life can be uncomfortable, right? Life can be tough, stressful, emotional. But how can we face our emotions without feeling overwhelmed, or anxious. We all experience different things; we all deal with our emotions in different ways; what is stressful for some might be exciting for others. There is no right way to deal with something, but everyone has ‘their’ way of dealing with it. The question is, how do we find the comfort in dealing with discomfort?
The practice of Yoga draws aspects of physical, mental and spiritual guidance together, with an intention that you set for yourself. This intention may be solely physical; it may involve more self-discovery and self-acceptance; it may challenge the mind to slow down; it may challenge the body in advanced poses…whatever your intention you will undoubtedly feel discomfort. Put yourself in a Forward Fold when you have excruciatingly tight hamstrings, try a Happy Baby Pose when you have really tight hips – maybe a ‘Not So Happy Baby’, try laying in Savasana Pose when you’re in the middle of planning a wedding…how can your mind be quiet, right?
“FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL AND JUST BE”
So much of our daily lives, we battle how we feel. If we are upset we try to hide it; if we are lonely we make ourselves feel bad; if we are scared we put on a brave face; if we are apprehensive or anxious we shut ourselves away. But what happened to just ‘being’, sitting with our emotions and accepting it, embracing it – just as we should in our yoga practice. Staying in a pose allows us to feel the benefits of the pose, and as your body allows your muscles to relax, you’ll notice, as you let go, your muscles release and the pose becomes easier – more comfortable. Turn the discomfort to comfort with acceptance, with your breath, with time. Take this from your practice on your yoga mat, to your everyday life, by accepting where you are in your headspace and just being with it.
“CHALLENGE YOUR MINDSET”
How can we expect our mindset or our perspective to change if we are not willing to change? Now, this does not mean you need to drastically adjust your life and start making irrational decisions, but by slightly adjusting the way you approach every situation you are faced with, you may start to find a different way of looking at things.
A few examples for you:
- We may be the kind of person who deals with stress through avoidance? We avoid going shopping because there are too many people; we avoid the supermarket because it’s too crowded; we may come out of a pose in yoga just before allowing ourselves to really explore it…you are not alone.
- So much of our modern way of living allows us as a society to makes excuses. I can’t do that today because…, I can’t find 5 minutes to give myself some time because…, I can’t come to yoga because… I’m too full, too tired, too big, too weak… maybe some may seem familiar? Whether they are real or simply excuses, have they become a way of allowing ourselves to accept our excuses, but then get stuck in a circle of disappointment in ourselves or self-loathing?
- We may lean towards tendencies to self-sabotage. We may have high expectations for ourselves, yet always put ourselves down; we don’t allow ourselves to feel a certain way because it is not ‘normal’ or is it ‘weak’ or others will ‘judge’ us. This may be a way of subconsciously worrying about what we may discover if we let go, maybe we’re worried of what we might find out about ourselves as people…
All these examples of hypothetical, and some may resonate with you, some may not. But, I think what I am trying to say here, is life can be exactly what you want it to be. Yes, we may face hurdles, and sometimes it can certainly feel like the world is against us. But Ride the Wave, Dance in the Rain, Brave the Storm.
Because true self-discovery happens when you let go! Let go of your expectations, let go of your internal battle, and embrace the now.
Find Your Comfort in Your Discomfort.